Actors know all about rejection. Audition after audition sometimes, it is… “No thanks”… or, “Thanks but no thanks.” Whether you are a master of your craft or average, actors and performers must deal with the nature of the business. They must find that place within themselves that says, “I know I am good, even if they say no.”
I remember auditioning once for a toothpaste commercial, and I was turned down because I was too good of a tap dancer. I didn’t know what they were looking for, so of course, I gave them my best, only to find out they were looking for people who were not so good at what they did, but smiled anyway. “Oh!” I said. Then I saw things more clearly. It was a toothpaste commercial – they were selling toothpaste, not talent.
I told them I could pretend to be bad. That is when they told me a surprising thing. They said, “No, it wouldn’t work. You are really good, and something of it wouldn’t ring true. They actually needed someone who was really not good, even who knew they weren’t good, but smiled through it all. That is how they would sell their product, saying that even if you are not good, if you use our toothpaste you can still get the job.
It is really telling when a company is looking for someone who is not good, in order to sell a product. If you didn’t guess until now, I had been using that brand of toothpaste, and I stopped. When the commercials came out, I watched. It helped me to realize that I would rather be good at my endeavor without great white teeth, than just trying hard with only commercially white teeth to impress and show for it, even if it meant losing the gig.
We are all, in one sense, actors on the stage of real life, and we all have to make choices of how we play ourselves on that stage. Some people go for content, filling themselves with enriching knowledge, gaining valuable perspective, wisdom and skill to share on life’s journey. Others go for surface looks, becoming masters of the mask, and wearing their faces, even their beauty to hide the holes within. Still others become adept at misdirection, getting others to look at the glitz and glamour they have, rather than be seen for who they really are. And others simply don’t show up, hiding themselves from life as best they can.
Whatever choice a person makes, the most important thing is to be true to who you are, and be conscious of it, as best you can. It is how we grow. There is no substitute for hard work, and mastering one’s chosen profession. There is no substitute for recognizing your gifts… things that may come easy for you, and realizing that this may be a sign of what you should do, and developing yourself to get the most out of this gift. And if you are a loner, be that. There is great use in solitude.
Life is asking you who you are. Always show your real self. You are the only one of you, and whether we see you or not, your energy goes into the world to great effect.
Who I am is right for me… and I do not have to pretend to be something I am not.
May I never reject myself, but be a loving observer of my behavior and feelings. When I change is needed, I am capable of opening to that change, knowing it is part of my own growth and development.
May you have Power for Life Now!